• Chloe Foster

Email Counselling (part 4) - Misunderstandings in Email Counselling

Updated: Apr 28




In this 4-part series of blogs on email counselling we have explored the history of email counselling (part 1) and the issues of disinhibition (part 2) and boundaries (part 3). To end we will look today at misunderstandings in email counselling.


A common difference between synchronous (face-to-face, video call, instant message, phone) and asynchronous counselling (email) is the potential for clients and counsellors to misunderstand each other.


As Evans (2009) points out it is generally the time delay or lack of it that causes miscommunication.


Email counselling provides counsellors with “…‘time out’ before responding to any resulting conflict” which allows the initial emotions to subside (Evans (2009), p113). However, Evans (2009) also argues that synchronous communication also has the disadvantage of not having sufficient time to reflect. This can result in potential added tension as the counsellor may have a lengthy pause in a session to consider their response where the client is left trying to read their counsellors face as they wait for them to respond in the moment.


There is also the additional challenge of interpretation and tone in the text of emails which can be misunderstood. For example, capitals, asterisks, fonts, colour, punctuation can all help and hinder clients and counsellors understanding each other (Jones and Stokes, 2009).


Through my experience of using email counselling I have learned the importance of asking for clarification throughout emails to clients as this offers lots of opportunities for them to correct me.


I agree with Evans (2009) that when working by email it is essential for me to “consistently monitor how [I] present [my] online narrative and pay attention to the tone and intonation on [my] communication” (p114). However, in saying this, email counselling does offer a permanent record for both the client and counsellor which is more accurate and could help to refer to old emails if a misunderstanding arose from an earlier email (Dunn in Weitz (ed.) (2014).


Overall I feel it important that when working with email, counsellors are aware of this potential for misunderstanding and are ready to be able to manage rupture and repair as it more frequently happens in text based asynchronous sessions.


If you are a counsellor reading this and have enjoyed learning more about email counselling and would like to train, I suggest before you do that you give it a go as a client. That’s what I did and it was amazingly helpful. A directory of qualified online counsellors can be found on The Association for Counselling and Therapy Online (ACTO) website here: https://acto-org.uk/therapists/


For more info on the email counselling service I offer see:

www.sussexrainbowcounselling.com/email-counselling


This is part 4 of my 4 part series on Email counselling.

Read part 1 "What is Email Counselling?"


Read part 2 "What is the Disinhibition Effect?"


Read part 3 "Boundaries in Email Counselling"




References:


Dunn, K. (2014) The Therapeutic Alliance Online in Weitz, P. (Ed.). (2014) Psychotherapy 2.0: Where Psychotherapy and Technology Meet. London: Karnac.


Evans, J. (2009) Online Counselling and Guidance Skills: A Practical Resource for Trainees and Practitioners. London: SAGE Publications Ltd.


Jones, G., & Stokes, A. (2009) Online Counselling: A Handbook for Practitioners. Basingstoke: Palgrave MacMillan.

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